FAQs

What are you creating and why?

The world today is an increasingly lonely, disconnected and divided place. AI and automation will disrupt careers, identities, and roles at a scale we’ve never seen. Many aren’t ready or able to turn to therapy. Traditional mental health systems can’t meet this growing need. What’s missing are simple, stigma-free tools that help people privately process what they’re carrying, to lighten their load and set them free to move on.

Research shows that true emotional resolution happens when our thoughts are expressed - spoken or written - in a safe, non-judgmental space. That’s exactly the tools I’ll provide. By tailoring the experience to each person’s emotional processing style, I’ll help people process, reset, and redefine themselves - at their own pace, in their own way. It’s science-backed, practical, and fills the wide gap between therapy and self-help.

LetMeGo is timely. It’s built for the emotional demands of a world changing faster than most people can keep up. It aligns with a broader cultural shift: mental health is being taken more seriously, inner work is becoming mainstream, and people are actively seeking real connection and a greater sense of meaning.

What is the Letting-Go Styles Assessment?

Think of it like Netflix, but for letting go. Netflix learns your preferences so you don’t waste time scrolling. LetMeGo does the same for emotional release.

The Letting-Go Styles Assessment is a science-backed questionnaire that helps people understand how they naturally process difficult emotions. This allows the technology to then match people with the emotional release tools and techniques most likely to work for them.

It’s not just another personality test. It’s designed to uncover what might be quietly keeping people stuck, like overthinking, emotional suppression, difficulty finding closure, or an attachment to a past version of themself.

Unlike Netflix, this isn’t about escape. No binge-regret. No emotional cliffhangers. Just release from endless rumination - and the energy to move forward.

How was the Assessment designed?

It’s grounded in research and draws from cognitive psychology, trauma theory, personality theory, narrative identity theory and expressive writing and body-based processing research.

Six distinct emotional processing types were identified based on real-world emotional challenges. These types represent how different people typically respond to unresolved or emotionally difficult life experiences, for example, by overthinking, avoiding, staying emotionally attached to others, or feeling distress physically.

We are all a blend of these styles. The assessment is designed to identify a person’s dominant emotional processing type (the strongest pattern) and a secondary influence style (another pattern that also shapes how they respond). There are 36 possible profile combinations based on how these styles interact.

The six core types are:

• The Deep Thinker – Tends to process difficult experiences by overanalyzing and looking for clarity or understanding.
• The Self-Protector – Often copes by shutting down or avoiding emotional discomfort as a way to stay safe.
• The Connected Soul – Typically feels a strong emotional attachment to people or relationships, which can make letting go more complex.
• The Embodied Feeler – Tends to experience emotional distress physically, feeling things in the body before (or more than) in the mind.
• The Meaning Maker – Often needs to find meaning or a sense of purpose in what happened in order to move forward.
• The Evolving Self – Tends to feel stuck when a past experience is deeply linked to their identity or sense of self.

The report helps each person understand their two key emotional processing styles — the one that shows up most strongly and the one that also influences how they respond. It offers insight into why certain experiences feel harder to let go of and suggests tools that are better matched to how they naturally process emotions.

What makes this Assessment unique?

Most emotional wellbeing assessments today fall into one of two camps: either clinical tools designed to diagnose conditions like anxiety or depression, or personality quizzes that offer generalised insight with limited practical application. The Letting Go Assessment breaks that mould. It creates a new category — a research-backed, emotionally intelligent tool that helps people understand why they feel stuck after difficult life experiences, and what might actually help them move forward. It’s not about diagnosis or typology. It’s about personalised emotional insight, grounded in science, and designed to be used in everyday life.

What makes this assessment especially powerful is its whole-person approach. Most tools focus on a single lens, like thoughts, behaviours, or emotions. But people don’t process experiences in one way. This model integrates how you think, how you feel, how your body responds, and how you make meaning from the past. It reflects what modern psychology now knows: that real emotional resolution happens when we work with the full system - mind, body, and narrative - not just one part.

Unlike many coaching or wellness tools that rely on intuition or anecdote, the Letting Go Assessment is grounded in decades of psychological research. It’s also built using professional psychometric standards.

Why is this assessment being tested and validated?

To ensure the Letting-Go Styles Assessment is accurate, consistent, and meaningful, it’s going through a rigorous multi-stage validation process. This helps build a tool that people can trust - one that’s grounded in research and performs well over time, across different groups.

By validating the assessment, I’m checking that:

• The results reflect real emotional processing patterns
• The different types are distinct and reliable
• The questions work together as intended
• The tool can stand alongside established measures like the Big Five or the Emotional Processing Scale

What part are you playing in this testing?

By completing the assessment twice, you’re directly helping test:

• Test-Retest Reliability – whether people’s results remain consistent over time
• User Experience – whether the language and flow feel clear, intuitive, and engaging
• Question Performance – which questions are working well, and which need refining
• How it compares to established assessments, like the Big Five, DERS (emotion regulation), and EPS (emotional processing), to check how well the tool captures what it’s designed to measure

Your answers will also feed into early analysis of:

• Internal consistency (do questions that relate to the same type actually hang together?)
• Type differentiation (are the styles clearly distinct from one another?)
• Face validity (does it feel like the test is really measuring what it says it is?)
• Bias detection, including whether people might be answering in a way that “looks good” rather than reflects their real experiences

What about the extra questions at the end?

In the version you’re taking, you’ll notice some additional questions after the main assessment. These are included only for validation purposes. When the assessment is launched to the public, it will only contain the core 42 questions that identify a person’s Letting Go Type.

The extra items help me:

• Get your feedback on the experience of taking the assessment
• Compare this tool to validated psychological measures
• Improve scoring accuracy
• Identify if any new questions might improve type clarity in future versions

I don’t need to let anything go at the moment - does that matter?

It’s actually helpful to have a diverse group, including those who aren’t currently emotional or distressed, to ensure the tool picks up stable patterns over time, not just temporary emotional states.

The Letting Go Styles reflect enduring patterns of how people process emotions and move through change, not just how they handle one specific event. Even without an active emotional struggle, people still show preferences (e.g., for reflection, meaning-making, avoidance, control, etc.).

What happens to the Assessment after this phase?

Once this round of testing is complete, the next steps are:

1. Expert Review: Input from psychologists and psychometricians to strengthen the model
2. Broader Testing: A larger round of testing with up to 300 people outside of my network, which will also help reduce personal or cultural bias
3. Deeper Statistical Validation: Including checks for: 
   • Construct Validity (does the tool really measure what it claims to?)
   • Content Validity (does it cover all relevant dimensions of emotional processing?)
   • Response Process Validity (do people interpret the questions as intended?)
   • Norming (to understand how different groups score and refine interpretation)

Is my data private and secure?

Yes — completely. This test is designed so that your responses can’t be linked back to you unless you actively choose to share your identity.

To protect your privacy, you’ll be asked to use a code name or number instead of your real name each time you take the test. This means I can match your two sets of answers without collecting any personal information.

Can my answers be traced back to me?

No, not if you use a code name.

Your answers are anonymous and cannot be linked to your identity unless you choose to email me with your code name and request your results. Even then, your contact details are kept separate from your assessment responses.

What if I’d like to see my Letting Go Style results?

That’s totally optional, and I’d love to share it if you’re curious.

Just send me a quick note with:

• Your code name (the one you used in the assessment), and
• Your email address

I’ll send you your summary separately when early results are ready.  Your data remains anonymous in the analysis.

What happens to my data?

• Your answers will be stored securely.
• They’ll be analysed in anonymised form — no names, no contact info.
• If you chose to email me, your contact info is not stored alongside your responses.
• Your data will be used only to validate and improve the tool.

Is this assessment emotionally safe to take?

Yes - for most people, this is a reflective and insightful experience. The Assessment is designed to help people better understand how they typically process difficult emotions and life transitions. It’s based on well-established psychological research, and many people find it empowering and clarifying.

However, it does invite reflection on how you cope, where you might get stuck, and what helps you let go - which can occasionally stir up difficult feelings.

If you're currently going through something distressing, or if you're feeling emotionally overwhelmed, I recommend you skip taking the assessment for now, as unless you are entering your email address for your report, you will not get the benefit of the insights from your Letting Go Styles profile.

For immediate emotional support:

Samaritans – Free, 24/7 support
Call 116 123 or visit www.samaritans.org
 

Shout – Free 24/7 text support for anyone struggling
Text SHOUT to 85258 or visit www.giveusashout.org
 

Mind – Mental health information, helplines, and services

www.mind.org.uk
 

NHS Every Mind Matters – Tools and advice for mental wellbeing
www.nhs.uk/every-mind-matters